Mommy Wars Are Real – Adoption.com

AdoptionEducation-12Parents are all too familiar with the phenomena called Mommy Wars. I was watching a Disney movie called Zapped with my older son the other day, and the main character accused her boy crush of pretending to be competitive with other boys in order to be friends with them. He turned the tables on her and said that girls pretend to be friends in order to be competitive. How many of us are guilty of that? We have the choices between organic or regular, formula or breast milk, stay-at-home or working mom, public or private school, and the list goes on and on. Every day people compete with one another in so many areas of life. Parenting is no exception. How far can we take it?

In the adoption community, just like anywhere else, people are often in competition.  How can we support one another and learn to not compare our adoption to the adoptions other people have?  Click here to continue reading the article at adoption.com.

8 Aspects of a Home Study – Adoption.com

AspectsofaHomeStudy-24When people start their adoption journey, one of the most common fears I see is the anticipation leading up to the home study. I was no exception to this fear. The idea of having someone possess the ability to dash my hopes and dreams of becoming a parent again was terrifying. What if they didn’t like my furniture? What if my personality rubbed them wrong? What if they saw the dust I forgot to wipe off the ceiling fan? What if I had too many pets? A million what ifs. So what is a home study?

Please click here, to read the full article on adoption.com

Adoption Guilt?

guilt-07Adoption comes with complex emotions. Often, the emotions are consuming and misunderstood. One of the emotions that a lot of adoptive parents unexpectedly find themselves feeling is guilt. It can come as a surprise if you find yourself suddenly overwhelmed with emotions that you translate as guilt after you have adopted. It is not uncommon to feel adoption guilt…

It is normal to feel a wide variety of emotions while adopting.  The emotions can change minute to minute, day to day or year to year.  Being empathetic to the other members, while keeping things in perspective only help us learn and grow.  To read the full article, visit adoption.com.

What is Open Adoption?

WhatIsOpenAdoption-05Being so involved in the adoption community, it’s natural that I get a lot of inquiries from friends and random people seeking help in beginning their adoption journey.  One of the things I have to often remind myself is that I was once in their shoes.  In today’s adoption climate, open adoption is the norm.  But that doesn’t mean that everyone in the early stages of adoption knows about open adoption or is immediately comfortable with the idea…

To read the full article, please visit adoption.com

Butler County Waiting Children

butler countySomething I have recently been proud to take on is volunteering for my county’s Children’s Services.  The children that are waiting for their forever homes were in great need of updated profile pictures for the adoption website.  As a photographer and adoptive mother, what better way to donate my time and ability than to provide them with new portraits!  Now that I have photographed a lot of them, I want to share them with you.  If you are looking to expand your family and have love and nurturing to provide.  I hope you will consider these wonderful children!

For more information on the children listed below, please contact Butler County Children’s Services and speak to a social worker or adoption specialist.  Please share this page with everyone you know.  We need to find these wonderful kids their forever homes.  While I had the pleasure of spending time with them for their portraits, I learned just how wonderful these kids are.  Yes, they may need some special care to adjust to a new environment, but they are loving, polite and charismatic kids who eagerly want to be adopted!

300 N. Fair Ave.
Hamilton, OH 45011
Phone 800-792-3854
Email: jonesc18@odjfs.state.oh.us

Website: Butler County Children Services

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Colin

 

 

 

 

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Dezarri

 

 

 

 

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Denessa (purple) and Anna (blue) are sisters.

 

 

 

 

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Samantha

 

 

 

 

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Mercedes

 

 

 

 

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Nakia

 

 

 

 

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David

 

 

 

 

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Randall

 

 

 

 

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Dylan

 

 

 

 

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Miguel

 

 

 

 

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Davontay

Radio Interview – Adoption Perspectives

The Adoption Perspectives radio show, out of Denver and sponsored by Parker Adventist Hospital, is hosted by a new friend and fellow adoptive mom who is in some of the same adoption groups with me. She invited me to be a guest on her show and I am so honored to have the opportunity! Thank you Rebecca Vahle for having me on your amazing segment!

Big shout out to all our friends and family who are standing by our side. They processed our infertility and while they may not have understood it at first, they became our biggest supporters in our adoption journey. My sister in law for instance, became our cheerleader and a shoulder to cry on when things were tough.  We had many people in our corner, giving advice or just supporting us and loving us in our journey.  These people ached with us when we experienced our first failed match, as they too were losing a child they were eager to love.  Although hesitant to open up to the possibility of having our second match actually happen, they did and we were blessed with the joy of Ezra.  All of our family has welcomed his first family into ours with open arms.  Thank you, to all of you!

Positive Vs. Honest Adoption Language – Adoption.com

PositivevsHonestLanguage-28 In this crazy journey through life, we are in a constant frenzy of education in how the ways of the world work. Adoption language receives no escape in this evolution. Adoption has been a part of history from the earliest days. Adoption of family members through death or other reasons was common. In tribes, parenting as a village was normal. As adoption became a more formal practice, guardianship took on new roles. From the recent history of closed adoptions being the norm, we have now replaced it with open adoptions. Open adoptions favor the child and have had many studies showing the benefits in helping birth parents and people who were adopted gain insight, healing, and acceptance.

One thing that also evolves in adoption is the language used.  To read the rest of the article, visit adoption.com.