Whether you are considering adoption for yourself or would like to debunk some common adoption myths for friends and family, we are here to help you! Adoption can be a scary topic, especially as things have changed with how adoptions work now verses 20+ years ago. Built on fear and lack of knowledge, myths and misconceptions form. Horror stories told through the grape vine become distorted versions of the truth, and that is all people cling to. So let’s set the record straight on some of the most common myths in the adoption world. Open your mind and put your fears to rest. We won’t sugar coat the truth, but rather inform you so you can make the best decision for your family and educate your friends and extended family along your journey.
This time of year always gets to me a little more than other times. The daughter we thought would be ours is turning two. When we officially started our adoption journey, we met a young lady who was very early in her pregnancy. We chatted a little on Facebook, as she found me through our adoption page. Since we were working with an agency in our state and she was in another state, I honestly never thought anything would come of our conversations in the form of an adoption match being made; we just talked about her situation. After talking awhile, she expressed her wish that we could be the parents of her unborn child. We began educating ourselves on the possibilities and what we would need to do since our agency only worked with people in our state. We soon drove to meet her and her boyfriend and immediately hit it off with them. We got along great and had so many similar interests!
It is a difficult journey when you are faced with a match that falls through, but time does heal and now I look back and know we are all exactly where we should be. To read more about the way I feel about our failed match and what lead us to adopting our son, Ezra, click here to read the rest of the article on adoption.com.
Here are some ideas to consider while thinking of Christmas presents for your child’s birth family.
What are some of your favorite homemade gifts your kids have made for their birth parents or extended family members?
When people start their adoption journey, one of the most common fears I see is the anticipation leading up to the home study. I was no exception to this fear. The idea of having someone possess the ability to dash my hopes and dreams of becoming a parent again was terrifying. What if they didn’t like my furniture? What if my personality rubbed them wrong? What if they saw the dust I forgot to wipe off the ceiling fan? What if I had too many pets? A million what ifs. So what is a home study?
Adopted With Love is a website full of great gifts for yourself, your child or someone you know who may be adopting. I will be giving a way this gift soap pack to one lucky commenter. All you have to do is tell me what your favorite adoption related gift that your received, gave or would like to have or give is, and that enters you in the random drawing. But make sure you post your email address in your comment, or else I won’t be able to reach you.
A little about Adopted With Love:
The idea behind Adopted With Love originated from our personal experience of becoming parents through adoption. It was a roller coaster ride, with ups and downs, tears and laughter, uncertainty and hope, despair and blessings. Throughout our journey, we had friends and family supporting us in a variety of ways, whether a small note with encouraging words, a thoughtful gift, or a listening ear.
When our baby came home, our friends and family threw us a baby shower. It was a wonderful party, a celebration of family and adoption. Many people commented on how they wanted to celebrate adoption with us, but found it difficult (if not impossible) to find adoption-related items. Plenty of newborn and baby gifts, and some books on how to explain adoption to children, but in a time when adoption has become more acceptable and open, still very little to actually celebrate families created through adoption.
So we thought of all the things we found important about our and our daughter’s lives coming together, and the little things we do to honor our history as an adoptive family. The holiday season spent with our loved ones, the memories of our travels abroad to finalize the adoption, our lifetime bond with a foreign country we never thought we would travel to. We tried to capture each idea in a thoughtful item and before we knew it, our adoption gift boutique was born.
We created blankets to give your children comfort on their travels home, bracelets celebrating adoption and family, journals to chronicle your adoption journey for your child, and of course gift bags and decorative table stands to really make a baby shower adoption-specific.
We hope you enjoy our gifts as much as we enjoy creating them. Because in the end, the only thing that really matters is a family full of love and support, whether through birth or adopted with love.
1. Comment with your favorite adoption related gift.
2. Include your email address so I can get in touch to send you the gift!
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I am sooooo excited! A few months ago, I was asked to be a part of an ebook that adoption.com is publishing. It is a collection of short stories from adoptive parents about advice they can give or lessons they have learned in their adoption process. Each chapter is a story from a different adoptive parent. I can’t wait til it is released! (Don’t worry, I’ll let you know when it is. Stay Tuned.)
Anyhow, they are almost done with editing and formatting the book and the editor of adoption.com wrote to me with an update and asked me to join adoption.com as a Staff Writer (Storyteller). Their reach between adoption.com and adoption.org is over 2.5 million monthly viewers! That’s a lot of eyes! I will be writing a short piece every week on adoption. It will include personal accounts, navigating adoption, tips, pictures and advice. They will be thought provoking, educational, touch on real world news, celebrity adoptions, etc.
I am so excited about this opportunity and I hope you will check me out on adoption.com soon!